Archive | May 2013

Inspiration for your Perspiration – Memorial Weekend

Memorial Weekend 2013

As this weekend comes and goes please take a minute between your get together, barbeque’s and races to remember what this weekend is all about.  I may have a little more vested interest in this weekend being a military spouse.  But even if I wasn’t,  I know I couldn’t enjoy the freedoms of this country to live the life I live, write the blogs I write, or even run the races I run without the sacrifice of brave men and women who serve and have lost their lives for all of us.

It’s so easy in this country and our lives to take our everyday freedoms for granted.  Just remember freedom is NOT free, someone EARNED it for you, some gave all.

God Bless the men and women who are willing to put their lives down for each of us, not just on Memorial day, but every day.  To all who serve or have served, I thank you and pray that you take refuge in the Lord for he will protect you always.



Inspiration for your Perspiration – Season of Exasperation May 19, 2013


“It’s been one of those days (or weeks)” we have all said it.  Sometimes its the small everyday struggles that make life hard.  I’m not talking about life and death situations or serious health issues here, just the stressful daily struggles that just seem to drain the love (or the love for others) right out of you.

Well it’s been one of those days (or several) for me.  Its soooo easy to loose your mind, your patience and your “nice” on a days like this.  I find my kids taking the brunt of my struggles.  It a fine line between discipline and just plain nagging.  I have found myself having to step back quite a few times this week and take a minute to listen to myself.  Now don’t get me wrong they need discipline and guidance, and so do I!  For my guidance, I have done my best to take, at the very least, a few minutes each morning with my devotional.  My goal has been to do it first thing in the morning before breakfast, exercise and before the kids get up.  In other words top priority for the day, my time to hear Him and be guided.  I have been 99% successful this week.  What I need to work on now is putting His guidance into action.

A few weeks ago one of our pastors talked about the role of the Dad in the family.

Ephesians 6:4

Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Pastor Eric might as well have changed it to “Darlena…do not exasperate your children….”

Well I was brought to tears right there in church.  (granted this is not the first time, ask my church buddies, I am a crier.)   If there is one place in life I am moved emotionally its at church.  I think probably because I tend to hold my feelings in (except it seems anger and disappointment lately) at home.  Trying to be THE parent during deployment is sometimes very, very hard.  I have two out of three kids that are going thru HUGE changes in their lives right now and a younger one who misses his Dad terribly.  So I kind of turn off my emotional switch as a way to cope.  But by doing that I find myself lacking in the comforting, loving and nurturing of my kids too, not good.  Maybe its just the season we are in, we need more discipline, but I also am trying to find balance to make sure they always know I love them.  Its not easy.

I have found myself using this verse on a regular basis…

Colossians 3:20

Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
Apparently exasperation and desperation go hand in hand?
I have been praying for Jesus to show me the right way to lead my family thru discipline and love.  In doing so He has reminded me, yet again, to be more diligent in being the enforcer and the disciplinarian.  Roles that I am not good at naturally.  This has led me to try harder to find a balance between love, respect and discipline.  How?  Well most importantly by turning to God even more each day.  Calling on Him, even saying his name when I catch myself going off the deep end.  There is a way to make my point and a then there is a way to exasperate my children.  I need to work on making my point a bit less exasperating.
1 Peter 5:7

      Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
I know I can never grasp the fullness of the love he has for me and my family.  And I need to be reminded of how much grace he gives me everyday, so that I in turn can be reminded to show that to others including my children.

Ephesians 3:18-19

New International Version (NIV)

…18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

So how do you deal with your daily struggles big or small?
As for me I shall continue to pray harder and bring more Jesus into my day instead of letting the world and all my anxiety swallow me whole!

Sunday’s Inspiration for your Perspiration 5/11/2013 – Mothers

Happy Mothers Day to all the Mother’s out there!

Deuteronomy 5:16

Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and that it may go well with you in the land the Lord your God is giving you.
Now that I am older with kids of my own I can really appreciate all the things my Mom did for me growing up.  She was the one who dried my tears when I was picked on, the one on the sidelines cheering me at every game she could and the one who was always there to help me up when life knocked me down.
Hindsight really is 20/20 and I didn’t realize then (as most of us with good mother/child relationships don’t) how great she really was when I was growing up.  Thanks Mom, I love you!
I wrote this poem last year for my Mother.  She was diagnosed with the early stages of dementia a few years ago and this was written on a day when I was feeling upset and questioning why this was happening to her.
Happy Mother’s day to my fellow bloggers / their moms!  Here are a few special women in our lives.
Happy Mother's Day to my Mom. A woman who has lived by example what it means to be a Godly woman and wife. Someone who has taught me the value and joy of serving Christ and others. Thanks Mom, I love you! Erin

Happy Mother’s Day to my Mom. A woman who has lived by example what it means to be a Godly woman and wife. Someone who has taught me the value and joy of serving Christ and others. Thanks Mom, I love you!

My Mom - Love you know and always - Darlena

My Mom – Love you know and always – Darlena

Clearing Away the Fluff

Via Amanda – Running for Him

I pulled into the Starbucks drive thru and ordered a Venti sized drink. It sat on my counter, occasionally I sipped from it, but ultimately it became cold and my cup ran dry.
So I went to my computer to check my Facebook and play some games, but soon I was bored and I ran out of things to read.
Then, I turned on the TV. and found a show about local restaurants I should eat at and I dreamed of a date night for my Husband and I, the last one wasn’t that long ago, but we already need another.
Next, I tried to dream up some new designs for my business, something that everyone would just love and want to buy, but then I worried that it might not be good enough, so I kept thinking.
Later, I went for a run, hoping it would relieve some stress and I would return home with the best runners high and feel like I was finally back on track with my fitness, but as soon as I walked in the door life met me again and I already was thinking about my next escape.
At the end of my day I finally sat down with my Bible. I opened the page and I began to read and tears streamed down my face. Here in front of me was every promise and encouragement I could ever need. Here I found rest and relief in the words of my Savior, who has told me;
Man does not live on bread alone (Matt.4:4)
In all things work as if working for God… (Colossians 3:17)
God does not care about the strength of the legs, but about those who put their hope in him (Psalm 147:10-11)
All these distractions were what I thought were getting me through the day, but it wasn’t until I received the truth that my cup ran over with joy. It ran over into the next day , the next year, and eventually it will run over for my whole life.
If everyday I remind myself that the craving for designer coffee, the need to fill time, the pull to integrate into the social scene, the acceptance of others, the tireless efforts of self perfection, are all but a distraction from God pouring His love directly into me. Then, and only then will I realize how short I come and all that I’m missing.
Then will I be able to finally run the race set before me. To wisely discern between the fluff and truly being filled. To walk into every moment of my life ready to serve, ready to testify, ready to be the disciple I was made to be.
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us…

Hebrews 12:1