Post courtesy of Darlena.
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Struggling with Fear
BY RUN FIND YOUR HAPPY PACE ON JULY 7, 2013
Last week my kids and I went out for Chinese food (not that’s not the fear part, lol). At the end of the meal we were handed our usual fortune cookies, which we ended up bringing home. Later that day my son came to me and gave me a cookie and asked me to read the “fortune” here is what it said…
Fear is just excitement in need of an attitude adjustment.
BAM!! How true is this!? Think about it for a minute, does this ring true in your life? I know I can pick out many times fear has nearly overtaken me. Everything from the start line of a race, to boarding an airplane, to being pregnant and getting ready to deliver for the first time.
From my personal experience I can tell you that “fear” has played a HUGE (way too huge) part in my failure, successes and adventure in life. Fear can be very irrational. Truth be told I have always tended to be a fearful person. I’m the one looking for what “could” go wrong. Some call it weak, timid or just plain scared. However I have gained leaps and bounds over my fear in the past 3 years. I have been working on overcoming some of my biggest fears that have held me back. So what has helped me? Prayer/faith, running/working out and blogging. Strange combo? Maybe, but these things combined have helped me work on “fear” in many ways. The fear of failure does not haunt me nearly as much as it used to.
Faith and Prayer
My relationship with God has helped me become more confident in all other parts of my life. I was always more of a follower than a leader, a watcher more than a do’er, a wait and see kind of person. In the past few years I have become involved in my church, my women’s bible study and the children’s ministry at my church. My faith has grown in leaps and bounds.
Having a closer relationship with God has helped bring me into a more centered focused life. I am trying to not let everyday things, annoyances and fears not control my days, weeks and months. I have made a point to start each day with God first. Before my kids get up, before I eat, before I exercise. I want Him to be my first priority for the day. And in turn I pray that I will remember to turn to God whatever the day brings. When I feel fear or anger starting to creep up I try to take a moment to just whisper His name before I open my mouth. It helps, it really, really does. I remind my self each day that I am not on this journey alone and that the closer I put myself to him, in both mind and spirit, the easier I can feel his presence.
Running and working out have helped my find my physical strong. A few years ago no one could have told me I would run a half marathon, let alone multiple half marathons. I have also found the peace that comes with realizing its you vs you. Not you vs everyone else. Its about my personal best. What works for me might not work for you, and as long as I am doing my best, well that’s what really counts. Feeling healthy and strong physically has also helped me mentally.
And then there’s blogging. Writing has helped me sort out some of my “people” fears. I am not the most outgoing person, I don’t command attention when I enter a room, I tend to be the one that doesn’t make that big impressive impression on people. I feel lucky when someone I met remembers my name next time we meet. However I love to write (or rather type) my thoughts and feelings down. It’s another of my quiet, peaceful me times. But I love to share and find connection with others through my blogs. I can get lost writing for hours in what seems like minutes. The reward is both personally fulfilling and I also love the connection I feel with others. When I get even one comment on a post I know the time it took to share my thoughts has been worth it. For me its not about reaching the masses, it’s about connecting with someone, anyone, and helping them know they are not alone.
I AM a work in progress. I still have plenty of fears that I need to work on.
I probably always will.
I just need to give them a little attitude adjustment.